Well.... when Jim and I moved in together, everything that belonged to any of his ex's got tossed. They had fair warnings... and I think Jim got some sort of sick pleasure in demolishing it all.
wyl just left me tuesday, moved out yesterday, and left boxes af trash he didn't feel like throwing away, leaving me a giant (i mean this place is HUGE) apartment to clean all by myself as i'm leaving soon too (too many bad memories)
BONFIRE
along with anything he didn't MEAN to leave, mwahahahahaha!
i mean really, why would you do that to someone who's been crying all fucking week over this who you "still love and care about but need time away from"
When I first read that I was thinking "how much fast food has to be eaten to have a box full of trash form it?", and then I realzied you meant a person and not a restaurant :)
it's actually kind of cleansing, its helped the wounds since verbally he tried to keep me calm but actions speak much louder than words. yanno - tell me we're only temporarally broken up and things might change down the line and to make sure i stay in touch but leave me with boxes of trash (a big portion of which was an ex girfriends from LONG ago), don't help clean the apartment that we were originally moving out of together this coming weekend, leave me with the cell phone bill (family talk, yeah see if i make THAT mistake again)
really lets you know what kind of person you were REALLY dealing with. too bad it took this for me to see that.
Holy shit, he left? I must have missed the story on that while I was away. I am so sorry to hear that things didn't work out.
My two cents (hopefully welcome): He's an asshole if he was cheating, you don't deserve that type of treatment. Hell, no one does. From reading your journal, I know you are doing the best you can, and that you don't try to fuck anyone over on purpose. People with that attitude are hard to come by, mentally ill or not, and I'm thinking he will realize that later unless he is an idiot. I mean, I'm sure you're not blameless, but I'm guessing you were doing your best and not deliberately screwing up the relationship, and that's all you can do in any situation.
What I did in that situation was burn everything, and then keep a tiny jar of the ashes in the window above where I wash dishes, to remind me that in the future I should pay careful attention to what my spouse is up to.
he wasn't cheating, it was his ex girlfriend's shit that he's kept all this time. he's a packrat and left tons of... crap. just crap everywhere. i've thrown out 10 bags of trash after cleaning out my desk/drawers/various boxes of just clutter and crap that he's had since high school that he left behind fo me to throw away fro him after he tok what he wanted, like i'm going to fucking cart it around like his mother until he feels like coming for it. i have my own shit i need to be worrying about at this point.
i have noticed a few rather nice things of mine are missing however...
I am TERRIBLY sorry to hear about this. I know I'm this stranger who has been following your entries since January, but tears came to my eyes to read the news. Man, I'm just so sorry.
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BONFIRE
along with anything he didn't MEAN to leave, mwahahahahaha!
i mean really, why would you do that to someone who's been crying all fucking week over this who you "still love and care about but need time away from"
LIES
oops, soory. didn't mean to rant.
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It's fair game as far as I'm concerned, whatever is left behind... maybe give him a week to get or it's used to heat the house. Or pawn.
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oooooh wait, read that wrong ;)
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That is pretty lousy.
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i couldn't believe it was in my house, and especially that it was left here for me to throw out.
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mostly his stuff.
it's actually kind of cleansing, its helped the wounds since verbally he tried to keep me calm but actions speak much louder than words. yanno - tell me we're only temporarally broken up and things might change down the line and to make sure i stay in touch but leave me with boxes of trash (a big portion of which was an ex girfriends from LONG ago), don't help clean the apartment that we were originally moving out of together this coming weekend, leave me with the cell phone bill (family talk, yeah see if i make THAT mistake again)
really lets you know what kind of person you were REALLY dealing with. too bad it took this for me to see that.
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Sorry to hear it went so rough.
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My two cents (hopefully welcome): He's an asshole if he was cheating, you don't deserve that type of treatment. Hell, no one does. From reading your journal, I know you are doing the best you can, and that you don't try to fuck anyone over on purpose. People with that attitude are hard to come by, mentally ill or not, and I'm thinking he will realize that later unless he is an idiot. I mean, I'm sure you're not blameless, but I'm guessing you were doing your best and not deliberately screwing up the relationship, and that's all you can do in any situation.
What I did in that situation was burn everything, and then keep a tiny jar of the ashes in the window above where I wash dishes, to remind me that in the future I should pay careful attention to what my spouse is up to.
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i have noticed a few rather nice things of mine are missing however...
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welcome to the schizo wagon, btw!